Category: Non Moms

Aging & Dying, Life of Carmen, Non Moms

I was born on this day

My 40th Interdependence Day birthday bash featured a pedal-powered sound system, firespinners and dj’s and bicycles with flaming wheels.  I’ve celebrated on Mt. Elfinstone and in Horsefly and on a glacier. Last year i convened a spontaneous garden party. I might yet throw something together, and if I do, it will be fun. But i’ve …

Aging & Dying, Life of Carmen, Non Moms

Happy mothers and non-mothers day

We marched down Wall Street this morning, all dressed in black. Wall Street in East Van that is, down in the semi-industrial paradise by the port lands. A parade, in honour of the Buddha’s birthday. Two smiling black-robed priests led the procession. I followed, striking the brass inkin bell. Behind me walked a tall man …

Aging & Dying, Life of Carmen, Non Moms

I have no pictures of my mother

I remember my mother as a small, solidly built woman with angry blue eyes. She is sitting at the kitchen table, drinking cold coffee and smoking Matinée Lights. I can’t remember ever having had a real conversation with her, about anything. We hardly knew each other except as adversaries.